How to tell if your partner is gay

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter. 

OCD, as we understand, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research initiate that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In direct to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as adequately. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , establish that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might seem pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the mind that they mig

If the thought has ever crossed your mind, &#;I think my boyfriend is gay&#;&#; this post is for you.

This is a subject that I possess wanted to write about for a very elongated time. Why? Because I once dated a guy who was everything I had ever wanted, until&#; I found something that forever changed the foundation that our relationship was built on.

I was once that girl, who didn&#;t realize what to do or where to turn. A girl that found herself in the middle of the night Googling, &#;Is he gay? Is my boyfriend gay? I assume my boyfriend is gay&#; while *he* was sound asleep next to me &#; as seemingly NOT gay as ever. I had never had a connection with anyone appreciate this before. It couldn&#;t be. But then again, why did I discover what I found on his phone?

Not only did I not find anything from my Google searches, but I actually found a ton of junk out there that personally, I think is very disrespectful to the gay people. &#;If he hangs out with guys,&#; &#;If he spends longer doing his hair than you do,&#; &#;If he dances imagine (I don&#;t know what that even means),&#; &#;If he

How to Cope When Your Partner Affirms a Recent Sexual or Gender Identity

The revelation that your boyfriend has a different sexual or gender identity from the one you've approach to know and care for — and the implications that will have for your relationship — can be a lot to deal with.

To the person learning the news, it might feel like the other person has been harboring a secret, and this may feel love a betrayal, says Avigail Lev, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist at Bay Area CBT Center in San Francisco who works with both couples and individuals.

She says it can lead to the identical feelings you might encounter if a partner cheated on you or clueless a lot of currency gambling, especially if the other person kept other relationships or feelings from you, she says.

But not every partner who reveals a different sexual orientation or gender identity was hiding something, says the relationship counselor Martha Lee, a doctor of human sexuality and a sexologist in Singapore certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).

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Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband

Sometimes a lady may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may detect herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an veteran in women married to lgbtq+ men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to queer men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.

Signs of a Gay Husband – Is My Man Gay?

The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of lgbtq+ husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't achieve this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the same-sex attracted husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.

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