Finding out your husband is gay
'How I found out my partner was gay'
They had married in and possess two children - she says she was "very content and in love".
But there were signs something wasn't right, including gay dating website profiles on his computer, which he explained away. In he said he was bisexual but wanted to be with her.
Carol admits she was probably in denial but thought they would find a way through it as he was the man with whom she wanted to spend her life.
A year later it came to a head when he came home, said he was queer , and left.
"I thought my whole world had fallen apart but then he came help and said let's stay together for the sake of the kids. I didn't know what to do so we lived a lie for two years. To anyone else we looked like a normal happy couple," she said.
But it didn't work and they divorced.
Carol says the difficulty was the shock - he'd had time to get used to it but for her it happened so quickly. He's now married to a man and she says they get on for the sake of their children.
"It took me a lengthy time to fetch over
What Would You Do If You Found Out Your Husband Was Gay?
It’s amusing. As he came out of the closet, I felt like I was being forced in. No-one understood. No-one really knew what to say. When he came out, he was greeted with encouragement and affirmation. There were support groups for homosexual married men, forums where he could discuss what he was going through. He was finally creature true to himself, forging a new identity, taking his destiny into his own hands. I was left alone to pluck up the pieces. Unseen. Unheard.
We met in our late teens and the attraction was instant: he was very cute, and always had a bevy of adoring women hanging out of him, but he seemed to only have eyes for me. We had the similar sense of humour, liked the same things, and six weeks later, we hooked up and were one of the first couples in the gang to marry and decide down.
The first question everyone asks me is, did I have any thought back then about his sexuality? Any inkling? And the answer is no, I didn’t. But then again, I don’t deliberate he did either. Not really. We were adolescent and fairly innocent. I, for one, di
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Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a girl may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may detect herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an maestro in women married to homosexual men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to same-sex attracted men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Gay Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of male lover husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't contact this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the male lover husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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